Perspectives: Suffering From a Broken Heart
First off I wanna start of by saying I’m not crazy. 
In fact my mind is as clear as it’s ever been. Today, I feel deeply rooted in my convictions; I’m in love. Have you ever been so enthralled with someone you couldn’t see straight? For me with this man it’s far beyond a physical attraction; I love his mind, his spirit and style, this man is just fly; a supernova in its truest form. We have nice deep sexy conversations we spend quality time and just relate on many levels. A few months back we had what I thought was a small disagreement and he told me he no longer wanted to be friends and loose his number I was hurt. I tried to maintain my swagger and let it fall off my back but I’m hurting deep.
It’s been a few weeks and I think I’m becoming a stalker. I’ve pasted by his job, I’m constantly checking up on his myspace and facebook accounts to get updates. I’ve even called his voicemail and hung up just to hear his voice. A few weeks have gone by and I’m stuff hurting.
Recently he called me up out the blue and my heart went a flutter. I so wanted this call and now that I had it I didn’t know what to do. I allowed myself to be caught and we talked and now we’ve reconnected. I know I seem desperate to still want him but I know he is a true gem. Tell me what I should do to keep him this time around?
Peace and Love, Suffering From a Broken Heart
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Well my sister, I’ve never been the type to kick someone while they’re down, but I feel like jumping on top of you and shaking you until the crazy people fall out. I get the impression homeboy came back into your life because his first, second and third choices told him to hit the road; I’m unclear why you haven’t followed their lead?
When I read your letter I had a lightbulb moment and saw a reflection of my own dating history. I too settled for what I thought I deserved and allowed someone else to dictate what I should feel and my self worth. I’ll tell you what I told myself when I had enough, “WOMAN SNAP OUT OF IT! You’re better than 
that so act like it!!!” You’re ambushing this man who has clearly given you all the signs that you are a filler chick. He can’t have the one he wants so he is tolerating the one he can get, and regardless of how great you think he is you should want better for yourself honey.
It seems at this point he’s reconnecting with you because he misses the fan club. Has he really expressed a liking to you? Have you met his friends of family? Although someone may seem great it doesn’t mean they’re great for you. You’re searching for love, strength and support and must find those I yourself first. Than you have a to find a person who is willing to share and give those things to you. My advice is change your number and work on building your self-esteem and find self-love.