Perspectives: Love Triangle Nightmare
Dear Gabby,
Are you sitting down; I have a problem. As I write out my story it feels like General Hospital meets backwoods love, its all so confusing. My ex Alex* and I were together for 3 years. When we broke up for the first time 8 months ago, I was sad but we got back together a few weeks later and it was fine. He was a changed man, sending cute comments on my Facebook and Myspace. Taking me a dates just being the guy I wanted him to be. Then suddenly he broke up with me, again!
So I ran into ANOTHER ex and we dated for 5 months, his name is Sean*. Alex wanted me back, but since I was dating Sean and he broke up with me twice, I said no. Eventually, Sean and l broke up and I was feeling lonely and I asked Alex if he wanted to get back together. Guess what he said… “Sorry I’m with Sharon* now, I’m taken”. Sharon and I WERE good friends before she took my man.
At this point, I still like Alex and if he were to ask me out I would say yes. Sharon and I are still friendly even after she broke up with Alex and started DATING Sean. Can you believe that??? She told Sean, “I love you” to and everything, and I don’t think Alex has a clue. So, should I tell Alex? If I do, Sharon is probably going to be pretty angry but I see this as a great chance to have Alex crawling back to me. I just don’t know what to do!! HELP!
Ms. I want my true love back
You are so right I needed to take a seat to sort this high school drama out. Although I would like to believe you are a teenager this type of drama happens in adult relationships all the time and I still don’t understand why. Lets tackle your issues one by one.
1. Stay away from Alex. You both sound like you’re not ready for committed monogamous relationships so why try attempting them. Most people can define love regardless of age, but trying to discover love in the confines of a messy love triangle doesn’t help you any.
2. I would like to give Sharon the benefit of the doubt but the girl gots to go. So you guys only have 2 single men in that town? It’s not ok to date your friend’s exes and you’re a better woman than me still being friends with her. 
3. No don’t tell him, you don’t owe Alex or Sharon anything. If this was a few years ago I would say yes tell him just to spite Sharon, but what’s the point of being nasty. There is nothing of value for you to gain from doing that.
4. I will forever preach the importance of loving you 1st and foremost. Take some time to understand yourself and discover what you want in a mate. Being alone is ok take this time to love you!
- Gabby